How to Be There For Your Children

You scrutinize my path and my lying down, and are intimately acquainted with all my ways.

[PSALM 139:3]

Did you know that God studies His children? He does! He is a student of your ways and my ways, and He is intimately acquainted with everything about us. Just as God studies His children, we parents should study ours. We should become “intimately acquainted with all their ways,” because every child is different. For that reason, we must learn to give our children the kind of love they need. We may be great at telling our child that we love him, but what he’d really respond to is a hug. If we haven’t studied that child and observed his particular bent, we won’t know. Parenting is not easy. It’s not for cowards. But when we study and discern the uniqueness of our children, they are honored and affirmed in who they are.

When the writer of Proverbs instructed parents to “train up a child in the way he should go,” he did not mean the way we think he should go, but in the way he is already bent. You don’t try to make an artistic child athletic, or vice versa. You don’t try to force a shy child into public speaking. You discern the natural, God-given bent of your child and do all you can to encourage growth in that direction. It is impossible to do this kind of training in scheduled, five or ten minute “sessions.” Intense, focused “quality time” is a child-rearing myth. Quality time is a result of quantity time. The high moments of parenting are unscheduled and fleeting. We must be present when they happen to participate. Given a choice between “quality time” and “quantity time,” a child will choose quantity every time. Be there. Study your child. Encourage his growth in the bent that you see.

~ Dr Edwin Young ~

Truth For Today

A REAL DEATH

Being put to death in the flesh.

[1 PETER 3:18]

Today’s verse indicates that Jesus Christ’s physical life ceased. Some dispute the resurrection of Christ from the dead by claiming that He never died but only fainted. Supposedly He was revived by the coolness of His tomb, got up, and walked out. But Peter is clear: Jesus was dead—the victim of a judicial murder.

Christ’s Roman executioners made sure He was dead. They broke the legs of the thieves crucified alongside Him to hasten their deaths. (A victim of crucifixion could postpone death as long as he could elevate himself on his legs.) However, they didn’t bother to break Christ’s legs since they could see He was already dead. To verify His death, they pierced His side, out of which came a flow of blood and water— only blood, not water, would have come out if Jesus had been alive (John 19:31–37). Christ was surely dead. And that means His resurrection was real.

~ John MacArthu

Morning Devotional


COMING FROM GLORY TO DWELL IN OUR HEARTS

But very truly I tell you, it is for your good that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Advocate will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to you.

[John 16:7]

It’s easy to be confused about something—or someone—you cannot see.

In order to make the unseen clear, Jesus devoted much of his last discourse to the subject of the Holy Spirit—the helper, the third person of the Trinity.

R. A. Torrey explains who the Holy Spirit is and why his coming would be a source of comfort for Jesus’ followers.

WALK WITH R. A. TORREY

“If we think of the Holy Spirit only as an impersonal power or influence, then our thought will constantly be, ‘How can I get hold of and use the Holy Spirit?’

“But if we think of him in the Biblical way as a divine person—infinitely wise, infinitely holy, infinitely tender—then our thought will constantly be, ‘How can the Holy Spirit get hold of and use me?’

“If we think of the Holy Spirit merely as a divine power or influence, there will be the temptation to feel as if we belong to a superior order of Christians.

“But if we think of the Holy Spirit in the Biblical way as a divine being of infinite majesty, coming down from glory to dwell in our hearts and take possession of our lives, it will put us in the dust, and make us walk very softly before God.”

WALK CLOSER TO GOD

Christ knew it would be advantageous for his disciples if he returned to the Father, for his departure meant that the helper was coming! Not an “it” but a “he.”

Not an impersonal force, but a personal teacher, guide, consoler, and advocate. Reread Mr. Torrey’s final paragraph above. Then come to God today with soft steps and a grateful heart for the work of the Holy Spirit in your life.

Morning Prayer

“I'm going to go out fishing Simon Peter told them [the disciples], and they said, “We'll go with you”. So they went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing. Early the next morning, Jesus stood on the shore, but the disciples did not recognize that it was Jesus. He called out to them, “Friends, haven't you any fish”? “No”, they answered. He said to them, “Cast your net on the right side of the boat and you will find some”. When they did, they were unable to haul the net in because of the large number of fish.”

[John 21:1-6]

Father God,

Today, if I am in the boat, needing a miracle, I will cast out my net in faith. Should it come back empty, instead of complaining and moaning, I will rejoice, knowing that sooner or later, I will receive my miracle.

Amen

Strength Today

They were the potters who lived in Netaim and Gederah; they lived there and worked for the king.

[1 Chr 4:23]

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A lowlier task on them is laid,

With love to make the labor light;

And there their beauty they must shed

On quiet homes, and lost to sight.

Changed are their visions high and fair,

Yet, calm and still, they labor there.

~ HYMNS OF THE AGES ~

Anywhere and everywhere we may dwell “with the King for His work.” We may be in a very unlikely or unfavorable place for this; it may be in a literal country life, with little enough to be seen of the “goings” of the King around us; it may be among hedges of all sorts, hindrances in all directions; it may be, furthermore, with our hands full of all manner of pottery for our daily task. No matter! The King who placed us “there” will come and dwell there with us; the hedges are all right, or He would soon do away with them; and it does not follow that what seems to hinder our way may not be for its very protection; and as for the pottery, why, that is just exactly what He has seen fit to put into our hands, and therefore it is, for the present, “His work.”

~ F. R. HAVERGAL ~