For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.
~ Ephesians 5:25 [NLT]
The second part is the challenge to all. Being loving is good but is your action the result of giving or getting? One way of showing your love is by encouragement. Encourage her in her good deeds even if it diminishes your pride. Put her first always like God did for us.