Resentment kills a fool, and envy slays the simple.
~ JOB 5:2 [NIV]
Some people seem graced with mercy glands. They secrete forgiveness, never harboring grudges or reciting their hurts. Others of us (most of us?) find it hard to forgive the purveyors of pain in our lives.
We forgive the one-time offenders, mind you. We dismiss the parking place takers, date breakers, and even the purse snatchers. We can move past the misdemeanors, but the felonies? The repeat offenders? The ones who take our youth, retirement, or health?
Can you forgive the scum who hurt you?
Failure to do so could be fatal. “Resentment kills a fool, and envy slays the simple” (Job 5:2 NIV).
Vengeance fixes your attention at life’s ugliest moments. Score-settling freezes your stare at cruel events in your past. Is this where you want to look? Will rehearsing and reliving your hurts make you a better person? By no means. It will destroy you.
I’m thinking of an old comedy routine. Joe complains to Jerry about the irritating habit of a mutual friend. The guy pokes his finger in Joe’s chest as he talks. It drives Joe crazy. So he resolves to get even. He shows Jerry a small bottle of highly explosive nitroglycerin tied to a string. He explains, “I’m going to wear this around my neck, letting the bottle hang over the exact spot where I keep getting poked. Next time he sticks his finger in my chest, he’ll pay for it.”
Not nearly as much as Joe will, right? . . . An eye for an eye becomes a neck for a neck and a job for a job and a reputation for a reputation. When does it stop? It stops when one person imitates God.
~ FACING YOUR GIANTS
Father God, it isn’t easy to forgive those who hurt us. It is difficult not to harbor resentment and bitterness against them. But we know, Father, that harboring grudges is destructive. Give us the strength to lay all offenses at your feet, Father, and to leave them there. Help us imitate your matchless mercy and grace, amen.
Whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.”
~ MARK 11:25
Take careful heed to do the commandment and the law which Moses the servant of the LORD commanded you, to love the LORD your God, to walk in all His ways.
~ JOSHUA 22:5
Christ Jesus reminds us that we are not here to be served but to serve others. Who better to serve than the most important person – your spouse. Since you and your spouse are “one”, it’s easy to forget that she is also part of the “others.” Remember to serve your spouse in the way they know how to receive it.
Love to The Brethren
Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
~ 1 John 4:7
Bless’d be the tie that binds
Our hearts in Christian love;
The fellowship of kindred minds
Is like to that above.
Forgetting those things which are behind … I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
~ Phil 3:13-14
It is not by regretting what is irreparable that true work is to be done, but by making the best of what we are. It is not by complaining that we have not the right tools, but by using well the tools we have. What we are, and where we are, is God’s providential arrangement God’s doing, though it may be man’s misdoing. Life is a series of mistakes, and he is not the best Christian who makes the fewest false steps. He is the best who wins the most splendid victories by the retrieval of mistakes.
~ F. W. Robertson