If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Most people prefer to live peacefully with others, but when there are conflicts, many wait for the other person to make the first move. Problems inevitably arise when both parties wait for the other to take the first step. That’s why the apostle Paul instructs each offended person to move toward the other. If even one of the two follows this teaching, there is hope for restoring the relationship.
Paul’s teaching reflects My own: Reconciling with an offended brother or sister should be done before offering your gift at the altar. In other words, restoring peace in your relationships—as far as it depends on you—is a prerequisite for participating in worship. Paul’s command includes an important qualifying phrase: if it is possible. You might do all the right things without achieving reconciliation. In that case, you are free—to live and love and worship with a clear conscience.
To live at peace with everyone, you need to control not only what you say and do but also what you think. It’s common to assume that your thoughts about others don’t matter much, as long as you keep them to yourself. However, I am fully aware of all your thoughts. When you indulge in negative thinking about someone, your relationship with that person is damaged. Those hurtful thoughts also affect your relationship with Me, and they may have a depressive effect on you. The remedy lies in turning to Me and seeking My forgiveness. Then, ask My Spirit to control your mind and help you think My thoughts. This is the way of Life and Peace.
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
~ Romans 12:18
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.”
The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace.
~ Romans 8:6